"Let's pretend that we'll be here tomorrow
And I'll try for you to be a little more on time ...
Let's do the things we normally do ... Don't hold my hand for longer than you need to."
- 'Let's Do the Things We Normally Do", Dido.
Why is it so very difficult to say exactly what you want? It's much easier to tread gingerly around what you are trying to convey, and hope that the other person will eventually comprehend what you really mean. Is it the fear of revealing your true needs, and thus rendering yourself vulnerable that prevents you from pointing at the heart of the matter, and placing it on the table for discussion? Or do you balk at the idea of your real requirements being rejected? Besides, it's feasible to formulate excuses for the other person ("They mustn't have understood what I was trying to say") when you haven't laid all your cards on the table.With the truth, however, one is forced to act, and abandon one's rationalisations about the responses one receives to the aforementioned truth.
Then again, can you ever be entirely certain about what you truly, absolutely need? Certain enough to let go of people who cannot fulfill that need?
And I'll try for you to be a little more on time ...
Let's do the things we normally do ... Don't hold my hand for longer than you need to."
- 'Let's Do the Things We Normally Do", Dido.
Why is it so very difficult to say exactly what you want? It's much easier to tread gingerly around what you are trying to convey, and hope that the other person will eventually comprehend what you really mean. Is it the fear of revealing your true needs, and thus rendering yourself vulnerable that prevents you from pointing at the heart of the matter, and placing it on the table for discussion? Or do you balk at the idea of your real requirements being rejected? Besides, it's feasible to formulate excuses for the other person ("They mustn't have understood what I was trying to say") when you haven't laid all your cards on the table.With the truth, however, one is forced to act, and abandon one's rationalisations about the responses one receives to the aforementioned truth.
Then again, can you ever be entirely certain about what you truly, absolutely need? Certain enough to let go of people who cannot fulfill that need?
2 comments:
One thought provoking post that was!
The last lines are so so so true ..
Can we ever be THAT sure?
I don't think so - I suppose that's why we end up compromising, and placing the other person above our fickle needs.
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