Dan: You think love is simple. You think the heart is like a diagram.
Larry: Have you ever seen a human heart? It looks like a fist, wrapped in blood! Go fuck yourself! You writer! You liar!
[From the movie/play 'Closer']
"You write such pretty words,
But life's no story book."
[Bright Eyes' 'Lover I don't have to love']
"Mr. Writer, why don't you tell it like it is?
Why don't you tell it like it really is?
Before you go on home."
[Stereophonics' 'Mr. Writer']
The evidence is everywhere. It's time to stop romanticising. Those rose-tinted glasses need to be shelved. Well, at least for a little while, until the glare of realism is too hard to bear.
Saturday, December 12, 2009
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Would it make things better? =)
It isn't about running back and forth between fantasy and reality. You see, as kids we're told... search for yourself. Look inside yourself. Search your soul. The inner you. The deepest corners of your mind... look inside for answers.
BULLSHIT.
The only time you find peace is when you get the hell out of yourself, when you don't see yourself as the most important thing in the world, when you finally grow up and stop the self-obsession.
That is peace, right there.
Cheers!
-KZ.
WV - ulikeso
Yeah, I agree, most of our troubles stem from over-analysis and self absorption. And, often, distraction is what is really needed to put things in perspective. But that is escapism, right? The peace it brings is temporary. How long can you keep escaping yourself? Moreover, how many distractions can you devise??
I suppose we really must "look inside for answers" for the more enduring type of peace of mind. Maybe not needing distractions anymore is really growing up?
Thanks for your comment, though, made me think. =)
Would you consider yourself so important that you would consider a distraction as escapism? Let's say, you play guitar for 6 hours a day. The same six hours that you would otherwise indulge in introspection. It's a distraction, but definitely not escapism.
It's not escapism at all. It's a great way of telling yourself that there are a lot many priorities in life and there is MUCH beauty to see, many things to experience, feel, absorb. The thing is, you find answers to deeper questions as life unfolds. I feel too many people just sit around waiting for answers. They always arrive at the wrong ones. You gotta let life happen - it definitely isn't a distraction, it's what you're supposed to do. There is waaaaay too much to experience on this planet. Feelings, places, food, moments, there's just so much that one lifetime doesn't seem enough.
But most people spend it discovering themselves or the people around them.... big mistake.
It's just that the unhappiest people I know are the ones who are busy soul-searching. The practical ones are the happiest. Becoming a rational/practical person may seem like you're stepping on your heart and killing it, but it turns out it's not quite that bad.
Actually, it's a pretty long conversation over coffee, this one. It's winter, it's christmas and it's a new year... =D
-KZ.
ps. - Anyway, I'm pradeep. Merry Xmas and have a wonderful year. Cheers. :P
You know, you may have several points there. Coincidentally, a lot of what you've said is what I've been grappling with the past few weeks. It's a day-by-day process, this rationalisation. And yes, stepping on my heart and killing isn't all that bad :P
p.s. Hi Pradeep, I hope you had a merry Christmas and will have a happy new year! :)
Sorry to but in, but you're both wrong :P As in you're both right, but only partly. All the experiences in the world are worth nothing unless you have the ability to put them in context, use them for your own personal evolution. Otherwise, you're like the stupid tourists who are too busy taking pictures and documenting their trip and have no time to actually get to the root of the experience. Without introspection, without the ability to look into yourself, understand yourself and guide the growth of the self, you're only living life on the surface. There is no greater purpose, no god, no final destination. So unless you take the time to actually think about where you're headed, and WHY you're going there, life is pointless, just another go on the merry go round. I do agree that people who think they'll get the answers just by sitting and thinking will get nowhere, that you need life experiences. But those experiences should help you understand yourself, build a worldview that you are comfortable with, not just one that you allowed yourself to be pushed into. You have to BUILD your soul, and you don't do that without thinking.
It's true that the unhappiest people you know might be the ones who do too much soul searching, who think deep and hard about themselves, their lives, the answers, as well as things in the outside world that don't affect them. But the most creative, brilliant, incandescent people i know, the artists and the poets, the writers and the science geeks, are ALL discontent. Happiness comes from accepting the self and making it better, not by ignoring it and accepting the intellectual rot that comes from growing old and getting comfortable. Contentment is intellectual death.
True, but I suppose as much as we all admire the 'Struggling Artist' archetype, none of us really wants to be him/her, right?
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